You Gotta Know Your Worth, Everybody Don’t Deserve You

When living in a world where superficial connections and fleeting interactions can often be the norm, it is hard to know one's value, and has been rendered unimportant by a society that gets hooked on the validation of social media likes, tweets, and empty praise from people we don’t even know. We all know those aren’t the things that define us, they are born from a deep understanding of what we can do, and it is for us to remind ourselves of our past experiences, achievements and innovative ideas.

Perhaps we are gifted artists, a talented writers, compassionate listeners, or experts, and no matter what they are, it is imperative that we plant our strengths in our mind so that we become aware of our value. You will, of course, come across those who want to lower you to their level, consisting of family, unkind friends, unsupportive partners who don’t see what you're capable of, and will relentlessly erode your confidence.

When it’s raining on your self-esteem, it feels like a distorted lens over your eyes. You must pick up on this, and distance yourself from such people.

When faced with the negativity, you will stumble on uncertainty, as any person would, and be consumed by thoughts of despair, irritation and stagnation. It's high time that you had a robust belief in your self and a healthy respect for yourself. People who uplift you, who know your value will also play a major role in propelling you towards greater heights. We all are also faced with the difficulty of deciding to go along with someone else’s plan, or to assertively say no, which we all struggle with, especially in professional and personal relationships. We often dread the anxiety and confrontation that follows, but declining doesn't have to be a negative thing, when we fear disappointing others. In the self-help world there is a famous question, “is the relationship or opportunity truly contributing to my happiness and growth”, and if not, then it’s time to re-evaluate.

When looking to set and communicate your boundaries you can work from a place of self-advocacy and by making your voice heard you're able to start getting the respect you deserve. Coming out of a situation where you've said no is a huge part of developing your self-confidence.

You should feel able to speak out for yourself in any area of life, whether it's in your relationships or your job, and can say how uneasy you are, yet shouldn't be afraid of admitting your successes and asking for the respect that you're entitled to.

Empowerment is what you’re after, and a compelling story or funny anecdote is one of the best ways to make people understand what you need, and put them on your side.

Your experiences are what will help you put a stop to anyone who doesn't take you seriously.

If you are to lay out the foundations of happiness for yourself, you need to centre on building self-love, which isn’t just a single treat, it’s basically a firm promise to put your own happiness first, regular self-care, mindfulness exercises, and positive affirmations are the keys to a happy life. You'll develop a deeper appreciation of your existence, when you sit down to write about the twists and turns of your life.

Well-known as a mental stronghold, your sense of worth can be the foundation to healthy, loving relationships, heart-felt passion and authenticity, and being able to stand up for yourself, and coming across people who don’t value you is something we all experience, unfortunately.

What's unfortunate about it is that you can’t control who doesn’t see your worth, but what you can control is who you let into your life. It's your life, and to take charge, start with identifying anyone who doesn't add to your day, so to speak. Self-love, taking care of yourself, setting limits, surrounding yourself with people who adore you are fundamental in not only staying focused on success and happiness, but can turn it into something truly remarkable.

Feel free to spread the word, this is something that a lot of people need.

Hearing it won’t hurt, and can create a community where knowing one’s worth is celebrated.